How to Handle the Haters

Rachelle Gardner

Blogger: Rachelle Gardner

In today’s social media world, we are witness (and sometimes victim) to lots of hate-speak going around. By virtue of putting ourselves out there online, we’re automatically vulnerable to the hate. By writing books and getting them published, we’re vulnerable to anyone and everyone’s opinion. It’s tempting to think this atmosphere of unabashed criticism is a new thing here in the 21st century, but of course, there’s nothing new under the sun. Marcus Aurelius wrote about the haters more than 1,800 years ago.

What if someone despises me? Let them see to it. But I will see to it that I won’t be found doing or saying anything contemptible. What if someone hates me? Let them see to that. But I will see to it that I am kind and good-natured to all, and prepared to show even the hater where they went wrong. Not in a critical way, or to show off my patience, but genuinely and usefully. (Marcus Aurelius, Meditations, 11.13)

None of us is going to get through life without people misunderstanding us, disliking us, criticizing us… and yes, giving us 1-star book reviews. It’s good to know that we’re not alone, and that this has been the case all throughout history.

Haters gonna hate, or as Proverbs puts it, “Do not rebuke mockers, or they will hate you” (9:8).

Have you had to deal with haters your life?

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Rachelle Gardner

Blogger: Rachelle Gardner

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Rachelle Gardner

Blogger: Rachelle Gardner

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I advocate for authors.

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