Blogger: Rachelle Gardner
Here are some truths:
We are in the midst of a pandemic and everything is off kilter. Publishing is going to be affected and no one is quite sure what the future looks like. Even before the pandemic, it has always been challenging for writers to get their books traditionally published. With self-published books now plentiful, there are more books than ever before for readers to choose from.
A few more truths:
It’s difficult figuring out how to effectively market books, and a book’s potential sales are highly unpredictable. Sometimes books don’t live up to the publisher’s sales expectations, meaning the publisher might not want to renew the author’s contract. Poor sales figures can make it difficult to get another traditional book deal.
And finally:
Writing can be difficult and frustrating. Sometimes it’s hard to meet deadlines. The publishing journey often doesn’t live up to an author’s expectations.
These things are all true! And most of them have been true, long before the current global health crisis put us all on edge.
In the midst of these truths, I frequently counsel writers who are experiencing moments of disappointment and dejection. They might be anxious that a series of speed-bumps could signal the end of their writing career, sometimes before it has even started. Often they are questioning whether it’s time to give up. Some are sad, thinking their lifelong dream is dying.
Everyone has to deal in their own way with disappointment, and we all have a right to respond to setbacks in our own way. But I want to encourage everyone to avoid getting bogged down in despair. Because here are some other truths:
- A few bumps in the road doesn’t mean your dream has to end.
- Publishing setbacks are not “failures” but necessary and expected rites of passage in this business.
- Just because things didn’t go the way you envisioned doesn’t mean things can’t still go well — possibly after a re-envisioning of your goals.
- People are reading more than ever, meaning we need writers more than ever.
- There are more options than ever before for getting your work in front of readers and getting paid for it.
- You can embrace your identity as a writer, and refuse to let external circumstances change that.
- The best way to deal with dejection is to stand up and fight. Don’t let yourself settle in to the despair. You’re not a quitter — pull out that fighting spirit and decide to be a writer regardless of the obstacles.
The world is somewhat unrecognizable to us right now. There are endless disappointments and losses to mourn. So here’s how we can keep going:
Figure out what you CAN control, and take action on that.
Really. Sit down and look at all the things that are making life hard right now. Then ask yourself: What can I do? Where’s my control?
Maybe you need to start with ONE THING. Find a single thing you can do to take back control of your life. Once you do that, you may find it easier to exercise some control in other areas.
I’m not trying to be a cheerleader or a Pollyanna. It’s just that I spend a lot of time talking writers off ledges, and I understand what that ledge looks like, and I know you can’t afford to spend much time on the ledge. You can acknowledge your fear and your frustration, then turn it around and make a new plan. You can refuse to spend time worrying about things over which you have no control (the global pandemic, or publishing industry at large) and focus on what you CAN influence.
Don’t let yourself get trapped in despair. Find whatever tiny area of life you CAN control, and take action.
What do you control? What action can you take?
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Shirlee Abbott
One of the blessings of aging is the look-back. Years have passed, and I can better see how God used the stumbling blocks in my life to build a better me. Symbolically, I take those stumbling blocks and pile them into my personal Ebenezer, saying, “thus far the Lord has helped me” (from 1 Samuel 7:12). I count not only my blessings, but my stumbling blocks transformed into blessings.
Andrew Budek-Schmeisser
Thought writing was my destiny,
but I am out of luck,
and it is really plain to see:
I must embrace the suck.
I’ve got to own my failure;
I’ve got to live the deal,
and like the shipwrecked sailor,
accept that which is real.
And once that step is taken,
and the dreams go by the boards,
I find that nothing’s breaking,
and I can move on towards
the life for me that God intended,
and not the one that I pretended.
Kristen Joy Wilks
Well, I can’t make sure that my writing is perfect, but I can make myself get up and write. I now have 3 sons at home doing school here, that fills up my day, but I can force myself to bed at 9:00 and out of bed at 4:00 and hope that I produce something. That I have control over.
Jeanne Takenaka
Rachelle, focusing on what we can control is a great step forward. I especially appreciated what you said about not allowing dejection to have the final word. We can stand up and fight.
One thing I’ve been doing is time-blocking my days. I’ve had to rediscover the good/bad times to write in my new all-men-at-home schedule. I’m figuring that out and making forward progress.
Janet Ann Collins
thanks for the encouragement.
Patricia Iacuzzi
“Find what you control, and take action.” Yes! And I’m so thankful the Lord blessed my family with the attitude of not giving up easily.
Thank you, Rachelle.
cheappaperwriting
I had a period when I couldn’t write anything, back when I was a student, I had to apply for an essay writing service. That doesn’t excuse me, I know. It’s really important to do whatever it takes to regain control of your life. When I did that, I took complete control of my life and writing books worked out for me.